Downtown Twin Bridges, Montana circa 1950--Margaret High's home town and where I was born. |
My wife,
Kathy was noodling around on Ancestry.com Thursday evening and discovered that my birth mother, Margaret High,
died this June in Cheyenne, Wyoming. She was 91 years old. I never
had any contact with her and only discovered her identity through the diligent research by my late brother's ex-wife Arlene Brennan a few
years ago.
She came from a pioneering Montana ranching family in
aptly named Twin
Bridges in the remote high country of the Missouri
Brakes. She served in the Marine Corps during World War II. Four years after coming
home she got pregnant and was disowned by her parrents—or so the story would be told to us in the myth-tale of our adoption—and reportedly gave birth to my brother and I all alone
and unattended. By prior arrangement
W.M. and Ruby Murfin got us within hours of the birth and soon adopted us.
Not Margaret High, but a woman of her generation plying her trade. |
It turned out that while we were growing up in
Cheyenne, she had taken a job at Frances
E. Warren Air Force Base as a telephone
operator. There is no indication that it was anything more than coincidence. She never married.
My brother once tried to contact her but she
wanted no relationship with us. She
had what seems to me—I could be wrong—a hard, lonely life and we represented
the worst moments of it. I respected that decision.
Ruby Murfin holds Timothy and W. M. Murfin holds Patrick at our baptism in Dillon, Montana, December 1949. |
Two Mothers
I wonder if they
would have liked each other
or had anything to say
if they had met for coffee and pie
on a Saturday afternoon
at the Plains Hotel Coffee Shop
each maybe in a summer dress,
faux pearls and clip-on earrings,
white gloves for sincerity and probity.
After the pleasantries and forced smiles
would they have fallen into awkward
silence,
each eyeing the other for signs of pity or remorse,
blowing clouds of cigarette smoke
and wishing the black coffee with
sugar
was a vodka highball?
Could they fall
to chatting like old school girls
having just two boys between them,
boys given by one and ransomed by
the other,
babes that shattered one family
and filled the void of an aching
heart in other,
children that crushed one dream,
and raised impossible expectations
in another?
—Patrick
Murfin
What a history, Patrick.....loved the story.
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