Showing posts with label prayer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label prayer. Show all posts

Friday, April 1, 2022

Our National Poetry Month Series for 2022 Kicks off With One for Ukraine


It’s National Poetry Month Again!  If you have been visiting here for a while, you know what that means—it’s our 11th annual round-up of daily doses of verse!  If you are new, here’s the scoop.  Every day all month I will feature poets and their poems.  I aim to be as broad and inclusive as possible to style, subject, period, gender, race, and neglected voices

I don’t want just a parade of the usual dead white men, but a lot of them did write some damn fine poetry, so they have their place here too.  As always, selections follow my own tastes and whims.  Yours may be different.  But I am open toeager for—suggestions, especially for contemporary writers.  I do not subscribe to dozens of little magazines or prowl the internet for poetry posts.  I often only stumble on new and unknown poets and I am sure I miss some great stuff.  Please feel free to turn me on to some. 

Here is a challenge—Poets, send me your own best stuff be it personal, political, or polemical I don’t and can’t promise to use everything.  E-mail me at pmurfin@sbcglobal.net.

Lyuba Yakimchuk in Aberdeen Scotland recently reading and speaking out for Ukraine.

This year we will segue from our March Women’s History Month posts to poetry via the important work of Ukrainian poet Lyuba Yakimchuk whose poem Prayer based on her personal experiences has caught the riveted attention of readers around the world.

Yakimchuk was born and raised in Pervomaisk, Luhansk Oblast, a small coal-mining town near Luhansk in Ukraine’s industrial east.  She graduated from the University of Luhansk and the National University of Kyiv-Mohyla Academy and won early attention for her verse.

Living and working in Kyiv (formerly known as Kiev in outdated geography texts) the cosmopolitan national capitol.  But in 2011 she happened to be home In Pervomaisk visiting her family when ethnic Russian separatists backed by the Putin regime in Moscow attacked and captured the city.  Her parents and sister became internally displaced—refugees in their own country.

This was part of the long simmering if often low-grade war for the border regions coveted by Russia—the same one’s who “independence” was the declared objective for Putin’s “military operation” a/k/a invasion this year.  It was also this continuing conflict for which Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy begged for arms and aid from the former criminal U.S. President who tried to use the assistance as a bribe for the Ukrainian government digging up dirt of Joe Biden’s son Hunter.  Failure to provide the aid despite overwhelming support of Congress for it helped make Ukraine more vulnerable to the current war.

Apricots of Donbas was based on Yakimchuk's personal experiences 2011 during the Russian sponsored revolt in the eastern Ukraine region.

Yakimchuk’s book of poems, Apricots of Donbas in 2015 focused on that time and the conflict in the area based on her own experience and eyewitness accounts.  Reviewer Maria G. Rewakowicz in the Los Angeles Review of Books wrote that “…Yakimchuk come[s] from the conflict-ridden Donbas and…have emerged as the region’s trusted spokespersons.”  The book has been translated and published in Polish, Latvian, and English and further translations are in the pipeline.

Since then, her play The Wall was produced at the Ivan Franko National Academic Drama Theater in Kyiv. And she wrote the script for the film “Slovo” House: Unfinished Novel  in 2021), about Ukrainian artists living in the Slovo Building, persecuted by the Soviet totalitarianism against the backdrop of the Holodomor—also known as the Terror-Famine or the Great Famine, when Stalin’s policies in 1932 to 1933 killed millions of Ukrainians in the hope of depopulating the region and replacing its people with ethnic Russians.  Yakimchuk’s work has necessarily dealt with heavy topics.

When the current war broke out Yakimchuk was living with her husband Max Rosochinsky and 11 year-old son north of Kyiv.  She sent her son to relatives in the western city of Lviv.  Like all adult men her husband has stayed in country to serve in the military or in the civilian resistance.  She has managed to travel to speak at cultural events in Paris, Warsaw, and St. Andrews in Scotland and is rousing support for her nation and its people.  Despite the dangers she has vowed to return to Kyiv.

Her powerful poem Prayer was included in Apricots of Donbas.  It is remarkable that she mixed sadness and rage but also recognized the devastating costs to both sides of the war.

The English translation is by Oksana Maksymchuk and Yakimchuk’s husband Max Rosochinsky both award-winning literary translators, poets, and scholars. In 2017, they co-edited an anthology of Ukrainian poetry titled Words for War: New Poems from Ukraine.

Ukrainian refugees struggling to reach safety in Poland.

The Prayer

Our Father, who art in heaven
of the full moon
and the hollow sun

shield from death my parents
whose house stands in the line of fire 
and who won’t abandon it
like a tomb

shield my husband
on the other side of the war 
as if on the other side of a river
pointing his gun at a breast
he used to kiss

I carry on me this bulletproof vest
and cannot take it off
it clings to me like a skin

I carry inside me his child
and cannot force it out
for he owns my body through it

I carry within me a Motherland
and cannot puke it out
for it circulates like blood 
through my heart 

our daily bread give to the hungry
and let them stop devouring one another

our light give to the deceived
and let them gain clarity 

and forgive us our destroyed cities 
even though we do not forgive for them our enemies

and lead us not into temptation
to go down with this rotting world 
but deliver us from evil 
to get rid of the burden of a Motherland – 
heavy and hardly useful

shield from me 
my husband, my parents
my child and my Motherland

—Lyuba Yakimchuk

Wednesday, November 27, 2019

By Popular Demand—Murfin’s Thanksgiving Rules and a Handy Table Verse

We American's may have failed to live up to Thomas Nast's 1869 vision of all people united by universal suffrage and a seat at the national table, but many of our family Thanksgiving gatherings are now nearly as diverse.
Note—This has been one of my most popular and regularly requested annual holiday posts. So here it is today, in plenty of time to share with your guests—or your hosts.  

This list of rules is particularly apt for those of us who do not live in House Beautiful, Snapchat posts, or Martha Stewart fantasies.  It’s for those of us with cramped space, short time, and real families of blood, choice, accident, or convenience that don’t resembles that Norman Rockwell cover or behave at all times with perfect reverent decorum.  In other words, most of the folks I know.


Murfin’s
It turns out that this illustration, swiped from a children's book, was actually created by Theresa Murfin! Gotta be some kind of relative!.  Hello, cousin and feel free to stop by for the feast.  We'll make room.
1. If you spend the day in a homeless shelter, soup kitchen, jail, hospital, nursing home, or even on the street blatantly and illegally feeding the hungry, read no more.  Your sins have been erased and forgotten and you win a gold star in the middle of your forehead.

Mozel tov if you spend Thanksgiving like this.

2. Sleep in a little.  No matter how much there is to do, you will need your rest.  Strong coffee with at least the pre-show for the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade is OK.

3.  It’s alright to come early and spend the dayAS LONG AS THOSE NOT ACTUALLY COOKING OR HELPING BY REQUEST STAY THE HELL OUT OF THE KITCHEN.

4.  If you are coming, bring something, anything to add to the feast and festivities unless you are explicitly warned against if by the occasional fussy perfect Hosts and Hostesses.  It does not have to be homemade, expensive, or complicated.  Just not poisonous.

5.  If you are not cooking, help with the set up.  Not every home has a state dining room, plenty of matching chairs, and infinite table leaves.  Be prepared to move furniture aside, scour the house for any chair that will not collapse, including the folding chairs rusting in the garage.  Try to make sure there are plates, bowls, glasses, and flatware at every seat.  They do not have to match.  In a pinch Ronald McDonald plates will suffice.  Be prepared to ferry food from the kitchen as directed.

The place settings and chairs don't have to match.

 6.  Try to seat the children at the table.  If this is not possible, do not ask teenagers to sit at the kids’ table.  They will know you just want them to baby sit and hate you so much that you may later not want to be alone with them near the plug in your nursing home.

7.  Speaking of children, if any are present at least one will smash an heirloom platter, spill a two litter bottle of Coke on the kitchen floor and everyone’s feet will be sticky the rest of the day, or pour gravy on the catSmile sweetly.  This will become a beloved family story, and will embarrass the miscreant for decades to come. 

Many of us gather with families of choice, not of blood like these urban hipsters and their friends.  The same rules apply.


8.  It is alright for some folks to watch some football when dinner is not on the table or family social time is not in force as long as men don’t hog the couches and beer and women are not made galley slaves and serving wenches.
 
9.  When dinner is finally ready, firmly demand that all electronics be put away.  This will cause shrieks and wails of protest, some of it from actual teenagers, the rest from relatives who realize you do not want them posting the meal live on Snapchat.  There will be sulking.  Almost everyone will get over it.  Then tell some of the men that means turning off the football game as well.

10.  Saying grace is fine.  If you are a host, take a look around your table and if you are not completely sure that everyone there shares your exact and passionate religious convictions, try to make the prayer as inclusive as possible.  Don’t ask for salvation of lost souls.  No adding political diatribes in the guise of prayerright or left.  If you are a guest and hear a prayer that does not conform to your preferences unless a thumb has been stuck directly in your eye, smile and ignore it.  Chances are that no matter how doltish the person praying meant well.

11. This is not the occasion to go to war over food choices.  Let what you won’t/can’t eat pass byCarnivores do not ridicule the vegetarians—and hosts make sure they have something to eat.  Vegetarians, vegans, and Ethical eaters spare everyone your diatribes.  You knew what you were in for when you agreed to come.

12.  There almost surely will be at least one dramatic, cathartic moment at the table when old resentments are laid bare and skeletons come tumbling out of the closet.  A few tears, even a little screaming and a dramatic stomping away from the table clear the air like a thunderstorm on the prairie.  Afterwards if there is love and a dollop of understanding, the expectant tension broken, things feel betterPass the pies.

Post-Thanksgiving dish stacking at the Murfin mansion--third load
13. After dinner the COOKS ARE EXEMPT FROM CLEAN-UP AND DISH WASHING!!!!  There are no guests at Thanksgiving.  Everyone is literal, figurative, or honorary familyRoll up your sleeves and pitch in.  With a group effort, and plenty of take home containers for leftovers, it doesn’t take long.
14.  Don’t everybody scatter the second the pie is put away.  Deal the cards on the cleared table, play charades or parlor games.  If there is a piano or guitar, start the singing.  Share scrapbooksBreak out your best lies.
15.  After a while it is alright to surrender to lethargy, sprawl listlessly on sofas and easy chairs, go gape mouthed and stupid.  Even snore a little.  There must be some sappy old movie on to pretend to watch.
16. And the most important rule of allDON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT GOING SHOPPING!  If you do, I will hunt you down and hurt you.

Thanksgiving Prayers should be about gratitude and love, not preaching, proselytizing, politics, or finger pointing. Swallow hard.  You can manage it....
A few years ago I found myself asked to say grace at a typical extended family Thanksgiving.  Around the table were Catholics ardent and lapsed, liberal Protestants, Jews (mostly secular), a practicing Buddhist, and unchurched secularists.  And I, of course, was a Unitarian Universalist with Humanist leanings.  To be inclusive, to whom should I address a prayer?  What deity, if any, should I invoke?  Should I lead with a Chinese menu of optionspick a god from column A and a spirit from column B? 

This is what I came up with.  You may find it useful—or not.  Feel free to use it if it fits.  Or adapt it to your needs and circumstancesNo pressure.

A Thanksgiving Prayer for Those Who Don’t Pray

Thanks for the hands.
All of them.
            That dug and scratched,
            reaped and loaded,
            milled and butchered,
            baked and cooked,
            served and scrubbed.

The cracked,
            the bleeding,
                        the blistered hands.

The hands that
hewed and smelted,   
            sawed and hammered,
            wove and sewed,
            put together and took apart.

The calloused,
            the greasy,
                        the grimy hands.

The hands that
            wrote and painted,
            plucked and keyed
            carved and created.

The graceful,
            the supple,
                        the nimble hands.

The hands that
            caressed and fondled,
            stroked and petted,
            held and are held,
            grasped and gave,
            played and prayed.

The warm,
            the soft,
                        the forgiving hands.

And today bless even the hands that
            shoved and scourged,
            slapped and smote,
            bound and chained us.

The harsh,
            the hateful,
                        the heavy hands.

Today they cannot still our hands
            from their pleasure and their duty.

The void of anger they create,
            our hands fill with love.

The gentle,
            the clasping,
                        the reaching hands.

Patrick Murfin



Wednesday, November 22, 2017

Just When You Need Them Most—Murfin’s Thanksgiving Rules

Murfin’s

It turns out that this illustration, swiped from a children's book, was actually created by Theresa Murfin! Gotta be some kind of relative!.  Hello, cousin and feel free to stop by for the feast.  We'll make room.

Note:  Miss me?  I have spent the last two days toiling over a new post I think you will find of interest.  And I’m not quite finished.  Tune into this channel on Friday for the results.  In the meantime we have a holiday here in the Land of the Semi-free and Home of the Fearful…

I have posted my Murfin’s Thanksgiving Rules before, but on Thanksgiving itself when everyone is too busy with preparations, entertaining, dinner, and cleaning up to read them.  I have been scolded for this.  “Damn it, Murfin!  Why didn’t you post this when it would have been of use!  I didn’t read it until 10 pm after the last guest was gone, last dishes washed, and the gravy stain scrubbed from the carpet.”

Good point.  So here it is today, in plenty of time to share with your guests—or your hosts.  This list of rules is particularly apt for those of us who do not live in House Beautiful, Pinterest posts, or Martha Stewart fantasies.  It’s for those of us with cramped space, short time, and real families of blood or choice that don’t resemble that Norman Rockwell cover or behave at all times with perfect reverent decorum.  In other words, most of the folks I know.


If you spend your Thanksgiving like this, you are excused.  And blessings on your head.

1. If you spend the day in a homeless shelter, soup kitchen, jail, hospital, nursing home, or even on the street blatantly and illegally feeding the hungry, read no more.  Your sins have been erased and forgotten and you win a gold star in the middle of your forehead.

2. Sleep in a little.  No matter how much there is to do, you will need your rest.  Strong coffee with at least the pre-show for the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade is OK.

3.  It’s alright to come early and spend the dayAS LONG AS THOSE NOT ACTUALLY COOKING OR HELPING BY REQUEST STAY THE HELL OUT OF THE KITCHEN.

4.  If you are coming, bring something, anything to add to the feast and festivities unless you are explicitly warned against if by the occasional fussy perfect Hosts and Hostesses.  It does not have to be homemade, expensive, or complicated.  Just not poisonous

5.  If you are not cooking, help with the set up.  Not every home has a state dining room, plenty of matching chairs, and infinite table leaves.  Be prepared to move furniture aside, scour the house for any chair that will not collapse, including the folding chairs rusting in the garage.  Try to make sure there are plates, bowls, glasses, and flatware at every seat.  They do not have to match.  In a pinch Ronald McDonald plates will suffice.  Be prepared to ferry food from the kitchen as directed.

As long as everyone gets to eat, it doesn't mater if your plates, flatwear, or chairs match or that you hauled the folding tables up from the basement.  Guests can help assemble a makeshift dining room.
6.  Try to seat the children at the table.  If this is not possible, do not ask teenagers to sit at the kids’ table.  They will know you just want them to baby sit and hate you so much that you may later not want to be alone with them near the plug in your nursing home.

7.  Speaking of children, if any are present at least one will smash an heirloom platter, spill a two litter of Coke on the kitchen floor and everyone’s feet will be sticky the rest of the day, or pour gravy on the cat.  Smile sweetly.  This will become a beloved family story, and will embarrass the miscreant for decades to come

Many of us gather with families of choice, not of blood like these urban hipsters and their friends.  The same rules apply.

8.  It is alright for some folks to watch some football when dinner is not on the table or family social time is not in force as long as men don’t hog the couches and beer and women are not made galley slaves and serving wenches.
 
9.  When dinner is finally ready, firmly demand that all electronics be put away.  This will cause shrieks and wails of protest, some of it from actual teenagers, the rest from relatives who realize you do not want them posting the meal live on Twitter.  There will be sulking.  Almost everyone will get over it.  Then tell some of the men that means turning of the football game as well.

10.  Saying grace is fine.  If you are a host, take a look around your table and if you are not completely sure that everyone there shares your exact and passionate religious convictions, try to make the prayer as inclusive as possible.  Don’t ask for salvation of lost souls.  No adding political diatribes in the guise of prayerright or left.  If you are a guest and hear a prayer that does not conform to your preferences unless a thumb has been stuck directly in your eye, smile and ignore it.  Chances are that no matter how doltish the person praying meant well.

11. This is not the occasion to go to war over food choices.  Let what you won’t/can’t eat pass by.  Carnivores do not ridicule the vegetarians—and hosts make sure they have something to eat.  Vegetarians, vegans, and Ethical eaters spare everyone your diatribes.  You knew what you were in for when you agreed to come.

12.  There almost surely will be at least one dramatic, cathartic moment at the table when old resentments are laid bare and skeletons come tumbling out of the closet.  A few tears, even a little screaming and a dramatic stomping away from the table clear the air like a thunderstorm on the prairie.  Afterwards if there is love and a dollop of understanding, the expectant tension broken, things feel better.  Pass the pies.

Post-Thanksgiving dish stacking at the Murfin mansion--third load
13. After dinner the COOKS ARE EXEMPT FROM CLEAN-UP AND DISH WASHING!!!!  There are no guests at Thanksgiving.  Everyone is literal, figurative, or honorary family.  Roll up your sleeves and pitch in.  With a group effort, and plenty of take home containers for leftovers, it doesn’t take long.
14.  Don’t everybody scatter the second the pie is put away.  Deal the cards on the cleared table, play charades or parlor games.  If there is a piano or guitar, start the singing.  Share scrapbooks.  Break out your best lies.
15.  After a while it is alright to surrender to lethargy, sprawl listlessly on sofas and easy chairs, go gape mouthed and stupid.  Even snore a little.  There must be some sappy old movie on to pretend to watch.
16. And the most important rule of allDON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT GOING SHOPPING!  If you do, I will hunt you down and hurt you.
A few years ago I found myself asked to say grace at a typical extended family Thanksgiving.  Around the table were Catholics ardent and lapsed, liberal Protestants, Jews (mostly secular), a practicing Buddhist, and unchurched secularists.  And I, of course, was a Unitarian Universalist with Humanist leanings.  To be inclusive, to whom should I address a prayer?  What deity, if any, should I invoke?  Should I lead with a Chinese menu of optionspick a god from column A and a spirit from column B? 

This is what I came up with.  You may find it useful—or not.  Feel free to use it if it fits.  Or adapt it to your needs and circumstances.  No pressure.
 
Thanksgiving Prayers should be about gratitude and love, not preaching, proselytizing, politics, or finger pointing. Swallow hard.  You can manage it....


A Thanksgiving Prayer for Those Who Don’t Pray

Thanks for the hands.
All of them.
            That dug and scratched,
            reaped and loaded,
            milled and butchered,
            baked and cooked,
            served and scrubbed.

The cracked,
            the bleeding,
                        the blistered hands.

The hands that
hewed and smelted,   
            sawed and hammered,
            wove and sewed,
            put together and took apart.

The calloused,
            the greasy,
                        the grimy hands.

The hands that
            wrote and painted,
            plucked and keyed
            carved and created.

The graceful,
            the supple,
                        the nimble hands.

The hands that
            caressed and fondled,
            stroked and petted,
            held and are held,
            grasped and gave,
            played and prayed.

The warm,
            the soft,
                        the forgiving hands.

And today bless even the hands that
            shoved and scourged,
            slapped and smote,
            bound and chained us.

The harsh,
            the hateful,
                        the heavy hands.

Today they cannot still our hands
            from their pleasure and their duty.

The void of anger they create,
            our hands fill with love.

The gentle,
            the clasping,
                        the reaching hands.

Patrick Murfin