|No Murfin poetry included.|
I admit it. I must be a failure as a poet and probably as a male of the species. I could never write a love poem. That is my shame. Isn’t that what poets do? Eventually they all write something to their Coy Mistress, a lyric ode, a flight of fantastic metaphor, even the wounded wail of the broken heart.
But not me. Not even when I was starry eyed and deep in the throes of first Great Love and pretending to the be a brooding, sensitive young man. None of the beloveds of my life, including my wife of thirty years, has ever opened on Valentine’s Day that special missive just for her celebrating her as my muse. At best there would be a Hallmark Card and if we could afford it and our schedules permitted a nice diner out.
I am pretty sure this makes me one of pathologically shut down, the stereotypical emotionally unavailable, cold men that have driven many good women to despair and violence.
Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa.
I have written about love about three times in poetry. The first effort, I Was Only the Eunuch They Flew To was written in a period of deeply drunken depression while hanging around a pathetic North Side dive called the Blue Bird Tap on Irving Park Road. It was really mostly about self pity—I only seemed to attract wounded women who wanted to cry on my shoulder and then return to the assholes who had broken their hearts, I just looked for a copy, which only exists in a little pocket notebook I kept at the time, but the book seems to have disappeared. Probably for the best.
The following poem is all that is left of a fantasy novella that I was working on thirty years ago. In it Merlin awoke in the Crystal Cave in 1940, shaken to consciousness by German bombs. His adventures in war time Britain and thence to America to be discovered by me (the character me of the story) perched on a stool down the bar in my favorite shot-and-beer saloon. The manuscript of that opus, scribbled in ball point in a spiral notebook (I was too poor at the time to even own a typewriter) disappeared after a fire in the cockroach infested, stinking-toilet-down-the-hall rooming house I inhabited at the time. No great loss to Western Literature I assure you. But version of the following poem, meant to be a kind of introductory set piece survived because it was folded in my shirt pocket the night of the fire. It appeared in the present version in my 2004 collection We Build Temples in the Heart, and reportedly has become a favorite reading at some Unitarian Universalist Valentine services, weddings, and other occasions celebrating love.
Love is the only magic—
It enriches the giver
as it nourishes the object.
It serves the instant
and washes over the ages.
It is as particular as the moon
and as universal as the heavens.
If returned it is multiplied
yet spurned it is not diminished.
It is as lusty as the rutting stag
but as chaste as the unicorn’s pillow.
It comes alike to the king on his throne
and the cut purse in the market.
If you would have magic,
place faith in love or nothing.
The following poem did not make my book. My editor didn’t think it was uplifting enough. It began, strangely enough, as a verbal communications exercise at a church Men’s Retreat, just the kind of touchy-feely events I usually successfully avoid. It was also the year that Comet Hale-Bopp made its impressive appearances in the evening skies. While not written in response to a particular romantic failure, who among us can honestly say we have not been there.
Relationship in Space
Our relationship was like the Comet
That swings around the sun
burning as it nears,
casting its tail away
from its attraction
before being sling shot
into deep, dark, frozen
and intractable space.
There you have it, my entire surviving body of poetic work on the subject of love. Told you I was a failure.